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For Kyle

Happy Birthday to my Big Brother! He would've been 33 today! 

 

Sometimes, life happens and suddenly all the dreams you had as a child are changed forever. I miss Kyle everyday and I often think what if?! He was my very best friend! Kyle believed in me and faught for me like no one else ever has!


My motivation to be better, serve better, give better, support better and never turn my back on those who desperately need hope and restoration was birthed through seeing my family torn apart by addictions. 


There were times as a child that I thought "Where is the Church? Why are people not reaching out?" 


Worst of all, I often heard negativity from the Church which my Mother taught me was a safe place..... I quickly learned that unfortunately that is not always the case!


As I got older the struggle with direction began having one parent in the Church and another so hurt by the Church, his heart was filled with hate! I  honestly believed that I was an alcoholic and drug addict because "It was in my blood!" Or at least that's the untruth I was fed.


Looking back I honestly feel pity on the closed minded counsel that I received as a young teenager. It shaped my self-esteem, motivation and confidence. I'm still as a 30 year old woman working on those things.


Because of Kyle, I am a better Pastors Wife! I was trapped by addiction and I wasn't an addict. The passion to never let another person feel the way I felt or carry around a weight that was never mine to carry....... That passion was birthed from my experience!


My "why" has specific names that I will always remember. 

Remembering my pain makes me consciously aware of who I am today. What I want to be tomorrow and where I'll be in 10 years.


I never want a Mother to look back and say "She could've done more. I wish she would've talked to my child more." It will never be said of me that I did not share my story.... every raw and unpolished part. I want the World to know what a Church is meant to be....... a judgement free, place of healing and restoration. It's not a competition or a Country Club! 


I am thankful to have had this personal revelation and now I am married to a Pastor that serves his people and community so well. We do everything we can to help anyone who will accept it! I regret not being able to help my brother or my father when it was applicable but now, because of them I am fighting through my flesh to bring light to as much darkness as I can!


I was born Denisha Keith. My DNA said I would amount to nothing...... BUT GOD!

As the Church body: 

      -We can do better!

      -We must do better!

      -We will do better!


I live my life as a Pastors Wife with Kyle, Skip, Kasey, Justin, Craig, Phillis & Pat in the back of my mind! 

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