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Oh, The Stages We Go

I honestly believe it's our human nature to think, analyze and often times self-destruct because of it. Why is it hard to believe that every area of our lives could be amazing? 
It's ok to not be perfect.... NEWS FLASH, you were never perfect in the first place.

Where is it written that we have to be the bionic woman/man? 
We are allowed to feel and be emotional. It's ok to make mistakes. 
In fact it's a good thing!

There are many stages of life. Sometimes, when you pass through stages you are completely in control of everything that you do and other times you aren't. What I mean is there comes a time in life where you start to do more of what makes everyone around you happy, even if its not exactly what you want. It's not to say you aren't happy making those around you happy.....

I feel like I'm writing a Dr. Seuss book!

Women are hard wired to serve and do. We love to give gifts, cook, bake, clean, build, play etc. So, we are naturally happy making those around us happy even when it requires sacrifice.

A Mother is completely sold out to making her house a home, which means making the environment warm and inviting. Usually, until a Mother's children reach a certain age they are her only concern. It doesn't matter what she wants or needs because she only has her children for a short while.

Unfortunately, we do not live in a time where maternal = nurturing, self-less, dedicated, consistent etc. As it once did!

I fully believe that we can and should embrace each stage of life and live it to the very fullest. I have learned that sometimes you just do what makes your family happy regardless of anything else. 
You could be on totally different pages of expectation and wants but what matters is that the home is happy and that is a Mother's job. 

I personally wear many hats: Wife, Mom, Pastor's Wife, Music Leader, Youth Pres. Wife.

However, in wearing all of these hats the one that holds the most importance at this time is MOM. My children are 7 & 3 so it is very important that I provide a safe, loving home. I also, have to be able to consistently do the perfect juggling act.

For so long I've listened to myself say "I want to ___" but it's not about me or what I want. I could have all the talent in the world but what am I teaching my kids or better yet the ladies in my church if all my time and energy go to everything but my kids?

As a Pastor's Wife there are many things I would love to do but the stage of life that I currently reside is being a Mom and I'm ok with that. I read a quote that said 
"My goal is to build a life I don't need a vacation from"

As our stages changes, our interest usually change. I guess what I'm saying is, it's ok to change. It's ok to evolve into a different person as you move into a new stage.  
Be You!
Be Happy!




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