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It's another day, take a deep breath, stretch and........ "MOM.... He took my Lego!"

The Saga Begins!

This is how many days start for most of us stay at home moms 😊

There are days I don't know how I'm going to make it. Where will my strength come from. I can find a prayer spot for a few minutes before I'm interrupted or I can try to study a bit in between chocolate milk runs, bathroom stops and toy fights.

This is life as a mom & Pastor's Wife! 
It's a wonderful life and I do it the best I can but unfortunately I'm an imperfect mess!

There are days I wish I could crawl in a hole and start over because I epically failed my boys! 
There are days I wish I had a Super Power or a cleaning fairy. 
There are days I wish we could stay at the park all day and who cares if we miss our scheduled events. There are days I wish my husband had a better wife.

This is the raw unfiltered truth of how your mental status can make or break the days you have.

Don't be so hard on yourself. I am my worst critic!! There will be days your husband doesn't get the best YOU. There will be days your children will not get the best YOU. No matter what, you must move forward from day to day and know that we are all human and make mistakes.

If you can forgive yourself for something you said or did that wasn't 100% that's a great place to start. Others will judge.... That's human nature. 
I can assure you that there time of slipping has been at their feet and it will most certainly come again. 

It's that stinkin' tongue we can blame! Crazy thing just does whatever it wants! The best advice I have is to walk away and process before you speak. When you feel that anger, frustration, defeat come over you... Just find a spot to sit and count: 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10..... 
It's better than saying something you will have to apologize for. 

Sometimes, we don't even see the wrong in things we say because we know it's an empty threat with no meaning. 

Be a Peacemaker!

Like I said, we are our own worst critic. I have told my kids:
"I'm sorry that I'm not the best mom. I'm sorry that I fuss at you sometimes. I promise every day I will try to be better." 

The heart quencher is when they look at you and say:
"Why are you sad mom? You are the best mom." 

So, you see my point is... You are doing a better job than you give yourself credit for! It doesn't matter what other people think or how they look at you after you've made a mistake. What matters is what you do after mistake are made. 

Remember, none of us are above failure so be careful how harshly you judge someone for their mishaps! It's not your place anyways! 

You never know when someone has found a secret place with God and asked those they've wronged for forgiveness.

There will be a day, if it hasn't already come, that you will want forgiveness for something you've said or done. 

Be a support system for fellow moms! We need each other more than we know. Your family should be among the first people you can show forgiveness, support and help to.

Never leave your family without saying "I love you!" If you are mad or hurt, make sure you clear the air and make it all right. I know from experience that life is too short to have unanswered questions.
 Let those you love feel your love and be comfortable to fall without being subject to your wrath. Those you love should be free to be themselves without walking on egg shells around you, otherwise where is happiness? 

These are my "Monday Nuggets" and I only write on what I have experienced myself so trust me when I say: 
🎀Don't be to hard on yourself. 
🎀Forgive without strings attached. 
🎀Show the ones you love how much you care. 
🎀Communicate your feelings with your family.


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