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Priceless Gems

I had a fantastic Mother's Day! I know this is a bit late but I wanted to share what I talked to our church about on Sunday...

Mothers are the unsung heroes of modern society. Spending hours of selfless time they devote their lives to the health and happiness of their children. -Ulysses Brave

Being a mother is both tough and rewarding, it is definitely a 24/7 job! It can sometimes be hard to find the perfect balance but then again motherhood is the endless search for balance and stillness, rarely achieved. The term "super mom" is often used and I never really understood it until I became a mother and was given the super natural ability to fix dinner, start bath water, answer the phone, play a game & hug my husband all in the same moment. A Super Mom can be the good cop & the bad cop, she can pick her child's voice out of a sea of "mommy's", she is a teacher, nurse, chef, contractor & artist & if somewhere in the middle of doing all that she manages to get more than 6 hrs of sleep at night she becomes "Super Mom of the Universe"!

Proverbs 31:10 Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.

Being a mother is a very special gift, one that doesn't come without sacrifice, heartache, sweat, tears, sleepless nights and prayer!

It is a common misconception that you must birth a child to be a mother!

A mother is someone who is selfless and puts the needs of a child above her own. A mother loves unconditionally. A mother is patient and will repeat herself 50 times if that's what it takes for her child to understand. A mother is kind and forgiving, she never condemns her children for mistakes but instead helps them learn, grow and change as they journey through life. A mother gives each character their own unique voice as she reads at bedtime. A mother mixes a cake just to let her children lather their faces with batter! A mother lifts her children up and always leaves them with an encouraging word.

So, you see any woman can be a mom but only the ones who follow the calling go on to be a mother. I have many women in my life that did not give birth to me but yet have mothered me. To speak into someone's life is an emence responsibility and one we should never take for granted. When you share that special connection with a child you must allow God's spirit to guide your every word and action.

God has blessed me with two amazing little boys and already in their short period of life they have had many hands touch their hearts, many hearts touch their soul and many hugs to ease their mind. When a child gives you their hand to hold it means so much more than helping them get to a specific destination. They are trusting you to guide them to a safe place and giving you a piece of their heart to hold. A child is so vulnerable and will forgive mistakes or misguidance in the blink of an eye, but for whatever reason when we grow to be an adult we loose that compassion for people and the sensitivity to forgive, forget and move on. As we grow and travel through life with all it's bumps and curves we become numb to feelings and we forget the golden rule that we were all taught in school:

"Treat others the way you want to be treated."

A Mother is Patient & Kind! As a Mother I want to show my children not just tell them, I want them to see me treating them the way I want to be treated because who ever said we stop treating people good just because they aren't old enough to understand? It is not my job as a mom to be rude & hateful to my children or anyone else's, but it's my job to teach with love & compassion. I can discipline my children without making them feel worthless or that they are failures.

A Mother is a giver of all things & Sacrifices anything for her children!

I am never too busy to kiss a boo boo, look at a drawing or answer a question. As adults we are very much schedule oriented! I am guilty of getting so frustrated when my schedule is thrown off kilter but I am slowly learning that being spontaneous is not only fun but necessary!

An agenda can be changed or altered & that's ok. Not being open to change or spontaneity can cause you to miss so many important moments with your children & family. Make time in your day for family everything else will still be there when you are done, we don't want to wake up tomorrow and regret that we didnt take that 30 minutes to bond with our child!

Facebook or Pinterest is not so important to me that I will sacrifice a relationship with my family! Make your family believe they are #1, put your phone down, let it go to voicemail & return your text messages later, if you are not willing to sacrifice those things for a night or even 30 minutes with your family, you will grow to regret it, trust me it's worth it to put your family 1st!

As the saying goes " Actions Speak Louder Than Words!" The very definition of priority is a thing regarded as more important than another.

Your children will grow up to remember how much time you invested into them. They are your most important investment. No ministry can replace your ministry to your children. Invest time into your family! When you become a mother, that is your calling.

As much as I love all the things I'm involved in, I would give it all up today if I could not do it without interfering with my God called & ordained responsibility to my children.

My children's accomplishments and future in Gods kingdom will reflect the life I provided for them & that all by itself is one of the greatest callings a person could have. We are all busy but you are only given a small window to speak into your children.

A very wise person once told me " This is just a stage of your life and you wont be here long".

I'm young and still learning but every sacrifice I make to be with my children & teach them about God is well worth it. I definitely believe us mothers can do it all but we have to always keep our priorities in order and remember when we are overloaded our families aren't the ones we should cut out or pull back from. Everyone has dreams & ambitions, but when you become a Mother your children should be your dream & ambition. The other things come second. Never make the mistake of having your children feel there is something in your life more important than them!

Thanks for reading,
Denisha

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