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The Toothbrush Encounter



"Home is where your husband is".... This isn't just a quote that looks good on paper so we pin it to our LOVE board on Pinterest. I'm afraid that we live such digital lives that we don't really know who we are when we aren't staring at a screen. Do you ever look back at the quotes you share or the pins you save?

Are you the same person on the world wide web as you are in reality?

I absolutely love cards and love notes! I have to be mindful to follow through with my promises of love and happiness or my husband won't enjoy receiving my cards. I keep every card we exchange and every now and then I go to my "Love Box" and read what we've said to each other and it reignites a challenge in my soul to be better.

I know without a doubt that God gave my husband to me so I want to make sure that I cherish him the way I am suppose to. I often remind myself of my vow from my wedding day. I didn't vow to love and cherish him only on the days where I am pumped with coffee, slept great and had a super productive day. I want him to know that he is my endless love and though I quote mushy song lyrics, it is in my heart and I mean it.

My point is ladies; quit spending all of your time nagging your husband! Yes, I know it can be frustrating when you have this epic idea that you want completed but you can't start until the ugly couch from college is finally thrown out. However, cut him some slack and instead of reminding him for the millionth time, ask him what you can do to help him. Sometimes, our guys just need to know that we are with them, on their side and supporting them.

I am my husbands biggest fan! That should be an anthem every wife chants. I pray that my boys find love, friendship, passion, support, happiness and I am doing my best to show them what they should look for. 

As I was getting dressed this morning, I looked at my toothbrush... my lonely toothbrush. 
I thought I never want there to only be 1 toothbrush in this cradle. I enjoy bumping elbows while I'm getting ready and his last minute showers at the exact time I am curling my hair. I enjoy having his socks on the floor and grabbing him the towel that he forgot. I enjoy the extra load of laundry the day before a trip to clean what he is wearing :)

I started thanking God for all the things that usually frustrate me. I know, I'm complicated.... I am a woman :) Why do they frustrate me? Isn't my purpose fulfilled in taking care of him and reminding him that I am his and I would do anything for him?

...This man who I roll my eyes at for singing in the morning and grabbing me to dance in the kitchen... This man who grabs me in the middle of my housework just for a hug! 

I started thanking God for all his quarks and praying I would never take them for granted again. 

My husband is the security I thought I wouldn't have. He is the love I didn't think existed. He is the friends that never leaves and he is the Father I wish I had. I am grateful for him and his crazy love!

In a nutshell I want to remind each of my readers; we each have a unique gift when we find love. Don't waste the time you have with the one God gave you by picking fights over the trash, lightbulbs and clothes on the floor. Embrace the moments you have and re-channel your energy. Be a good stewart of your time and appreciate what you have.

"Let the wife make the husband glad to come home, and let him make her sorry to see him leave" -Martin Luther

This sums up a good marriage. It's a partnership that you work at everyday to keep a flame going that you ignited years ago when it was just the two of you against the world. No cares of bills, jobs, responsibility... just each other in a summer romance. 
.......... Remember that feeling?
......................... Now, don't forget it!



My lonely toothbrush opened my eyes to everything I need to do better.


xoxo,
        Denisha

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